Hi, my husband and i are trying to plan a vacation for Aruba.
We are very nervous because it's our first real vacation with our 1 year old baby boy, my husband keeps saying we shouldnt go, so many things could happen to him, sunburn, insect bite.. etc but we need a vacation badly..

I narrowed it down to 4 properties but really really need help

1st bw the All Inclusives is Riu better or is occidental better, rooms, beds, cleanliness, the reviews were mixed for both, my husband thinks riu has NO Shade for the baby in the pool etc... bc of the immature trees.. and that it's too big - so lack of service - but it's new.. so shouldn't it be nicer

#2. occidental had some mixed reviews too...

#3. marriott surf club - they keep telling me the guest rooms are lock offs.. what does this mean.. will i be too close to someone else in the other room, could we hear them... they said they divide the 2 bdrms and rent them that way...????

4. Westin resort - like heavenly beds , pool seems really small

---- so here are my questions

1. please advise on any of the above properties ....
2. how much does a nice resturant upper middle class- run per person, if we don't do all inclusive? ex. westin or marriott..the diff in price is $1100 for 7 days.. for 2 people..
3. I'm not sure if i should do all inclusive?
4. like occidental for the property .. but not sure about rooms, beds, clean? , like Riu for being new and a number of resturants, LOVE marriotts POOL, and Westin's heavenly bed - and i know westin so probably a good exp. but the pools is way too small

5. please let me know if you have any input on resturants at these resorts, rooms, cleanliness, beds.. anything..
we are paying a lot of money and we don't want to be dissappointed with a 1 yr. old on the trip...

I wanted somewhere on the ocean, with full ov, CLEAN, good BEDS, Nice pool, if there was a KITCHEN it would be great....is there such a property

Lastly is there a market or grocery store near by?
do they sell diapers there- if so are they super expensive?
how about botteled water.. would it be the us brands.. that's what we use for baby formual-

i need to book ASAP, flights keep selling out..

Please help asap
thanks so much - please email me at moniku1@yahoo.com