[Arubalisa]

Welcome to the forum.

The search you did on toplessness may have been dated, however the info is still the same. You are staying at the Bucuti which caters to adults and discourages children.

I would contact the resort directly http://www.bucuti.com/en/contact/ or info@bucuti.com to clarify their policy. I think the biggest question would be is she only allowed to only sun "bathe" topless or walk the beach and swim topless as well. Some resorts ask their patrons to be more discrete than others when it comes to these different types of activities.

http://www.bucuti.com/en/contact/faq.php#romantic
"Is Bucuti Beach Resort a good place to spend my honeymoon?
Yes, if you are looking for a romantic getaway, Bucuti is an excellent place for a honeymoon. Be certain to let us know you are on your honeymoon (info@bucuti.com), because we like to have special complimentary amenities waiting for you - regardless how you book or which rate plan you are on.
If you prefer a more active honeymoon adventure with a crowded beach for people watching and interaction with other visitors you may meet on the beach near you, perhaps you might prefer one of Aruba's high rise resorts. We will gladly assist you in finding the right resort for you, simply contact us by e-mail with your questions. We do not believe in trying to be everything to everyone and will be very honest about whether Bucuti is the right place for you. We concentrate on making your peaceful, romantic getaway, the best you can find on the island. "

Awhile back I questioned the Aruba Tourism Authority on this subject and received the following reply,

"Toplessness & Nudity http://www.arubabound.com/faq.htm#nude

From Francis Jacobs, the PR Coordinator of the Aruba Tourism Authority,
"I would like to explain a little bit about your concern. Topless in Aruba is not illegal, there is no law against it, but it's not permitted on public beaches. We have two private beaches where they accept to do so, which are The Renaissance island & De Palm island. Manchebo Beach Resort [next door to the Bucuti] deals a lot with European & they have a separated area where European go Topless, but they are not allowed to walk on the beach topless. Thank you so much for your interest on the island Aruba, & hope to see you soon."

Perspective from Jamilie Geerman, an Aruban female in her twenty's,
"Well, I think it's disrespectful, & the elderly Aruban's think the same. I guess men don't care, & actually like it. But as women, we don't feel so comfortable with it, & feel it's disrespectful. Some on the other hand don't care. I say it's not allowed near La Cabana [a family resort on Eagle Beach] for example, & that it is very disrespectful for little kids. I don't care much for me, but for the little kids." As a side note, all Aruba beaches are public & children can be found just about anywhere on them on the island. Even on school days, it is part of the curriculum."