Thank you for the update. Happy to hear you had a very enjoyable vacation. Pro active and aware yes, research most important.
I have a different allergy, gluten. I have emailed all of our dining options and choices, all have been responsive. Please do not compare the States with Aruba, it's all in your research. I have been to the best New York restaurants and have explained my allergy and sure enough there is crostini on my plate. It's all in the homework.
Happy it worked out for you./