lots of folks do the legal ceremony at home and the beach ceremony on aruba.
but lots of folks do the legal ceremony on aruba too!!!
Originally Posted by queenkim
My understanding is that when you get married in Aruba, if anything were to ever happen in the marriage you have to go back to Aruba. I am getting married there in August but am doing it legally in the states
We just got married in Aruba in May. We choose to do both ceremonies in Aruba as we wanted one anniversary day and we figured if we were going to have an Aruba wedding we wanted to do everything in Aruba style.
The courthouse that morning we only took two good friends with us as witnesses. As our wedding was small we only had siblings as attendants so this was a great way for us to include our two really good friends in the celebration. It was a small intimate ceremony. We did hire a photographer to capture the ceremony and we all wore different clothing. Asking our witnesses that went with us they felt that it was truly an intimate moment.
Later that same day we had our beach wedding at sunset. New clothing, new hairstyle, and new butterflies. The beach ceremony was amazing and to us we consider that our "real" wedding, but both ceremonies were different and special to us in our own ways.
I would say that I loved doing it this way. We truly felt that both weddings were special and it was great to have the Aruba culture.
Since getting married we have had no issues with it being legal. It took a few weeks for us to get the translated version of our marriage certificate but that was the only delay.
Either way you decide the beach ceremony and the civil ceremony will both be special!
We got married last October in the civil house in Aruba and would definitely recommend it! The Justice of the Peace/Minister gave a really thoughtful service that marked the solemnity of the occasion as well as sprinkling it with humor. In addition, you get the Trouwboekje which lists our names and includes spaces for at least 6 of our future children! It comes in a little book form and is in Dutch. It’s a great memento that we keep displayed with our invitations and photos.
Also, the civil house has great architecture and color, and the photos from the ceremony turned out really nice.
For what it’s worth, all of our guests remarked at how intimate and special the ceremony was, not at all what they expected for a civil service. My aunt and uncle were among the guests, and they had been married at a US courthouse years earlier. They said their ceremony was not nearly as nice, which they felt was rushed and impersonal.
We split up our ceremonies, getting married at the civil house on Friday and on the beach on Saturday, with a catamaran cruise/reception Friday night. All of guests attended both ceremonies and enjoyed both. They didn’t seem to mind seeing us exchange rings and vows twice, I think because the civil service was so unique and Aruban, if that makes sense.
Coming home to Maryland, I had no trouble at all with the name changes with the translated certificate of marriage. It took less than 5 weeks to receive the UPS package with our certificate from our coordinator. However, I understand the desire to have all the name change stuff done as soon as possible!
My husband and I got married in Aruba last fall. It was beautiful and we loved it. Did any of you brides that got married in Aruba (legally, in the court house) have problems getting your name changed upon returning to the States? My Social Security office is telling me I need to LEGALLY get my name changed in the local (US) court house before they'll change the name on my SS card. It seems strange to me that my Aruba marriage cert. isn't enough to get my SS card changed. (And apparently the local motor vehicle admin. won't issue a DL with new last name without verifying with the SSA).
Would appreciate hearing about your experiences getting your name changed.
Marriage in Aruba Civil House - Getting Name Legally Changed
I am very surprised that you have having all of this trouble with the social security office. I do hope that your Dutch Marriage Certificate was translated into English with the Aruba official seals etc. I have never heard of anyone getting married in the Aruba Civil House and having problem changing their name on their social security card. If I had more details, I could probably advise you better.
get down on your knees and thank the powers that be, that you are the MOG.
i too am a MOG and boy or boy i am glad i had a groom instead of a bride.........AND i love my DIL as if she were my own. she is the best.