I am sorry you are having such a hard time. When you were planning for your Aruba civil ceremony, you did have to go through all the necessary documentation required by the Aruba Civil Registrar which in turn afforded you the opportunity for your civil ceremony to be performed at the Aruba Civil House. I do know that your official Aruba Civil marriage certificate is written in Dutch. Did not the Aruba Civil Registrar send your Dutch marriage certificate to an official Aruba translator to translate your marriage certificate to be translated from Dutch to English. Did you not have your Dutch Marriage Certifcate and translated English marriage certificate retuned to you? If that occured, your marriage should be legal in Virginia. What you might want to do is have your English translated certificate notorized by a notary near you. Also, if you recall, one of the required documents you were asked to present were both of your birth certificates that had to have both parents names. Also, you should have had Apostles for both of you for your birth certificates and letter of non impediment or also called single status report that states that both of you were single. As far as contact at the Aruba Civil House, you might want to contact Betto Christiaans the Aruba Civil Registrar. The Aruba Civil House is closed for the Christmas holidays and does not open again until a couple of days after January 1st. In closing, maybe you can be more specific regarding what happened on the day of your Aruba Civil marriage?
I had a wedding planner. I did receive the dutch and translated to english marriage certificate. I am able to change my bank accounts etc but the government agencies are the problem. I haven't begun to change anything as of yet until I am able to have my name updated with the social security office which is the main problem. They (department of motor vehicles, social security office etc) will not accept a local notary. Any notorization has to be done by the issuing party. This includes any certified copies of which i'm trying to get right now.
As I recall, a couple of years ago, a couple from New Jersey had a similar problem such as yours. The bride tried to change her name at her local DMV and they too would not accept the Aruba Dutch or translated marriage certifcate. However, they were given a list of certified by the State of New Jersey translators and notarys and were told to to select a certified NJ translator and certified by the State of NJ notary. They did just that and did not have a problem. You say you had a wedding planner so my suggestion to you as to not to go through any more of the frustration you are having with being legally married in Virginia, just be persistant with your wedding planner and ask her/him to please help you out in Aruba. It might cost you more by having this extra work done for you in Aruba and be extra work for your planner, but bottom line is, your client is important during the planning, the coordination in Aruba, assistance with documation and being ready to help out if need be long after the wedding takes place. Good luck in your endeavors and let us know how ou made out.
Unfortunately my wedding was botched so going to the wedding planner I chose would not help me at all. I may have to try to hire a different one to help me in this situation. But from my experience I'm gathering it would be more useful for me to make another trip to Aruba then trust anyone else to take care of me. If all else fails I'm guessing I could get married again in the U.S.