that certainly was a curve ball and absolutely was less than stellar.
i call it "nervy and intrusive".
Originally Posted by VA_Bride
He was the officiant at my wedding as well. He is a very nice guy. He through a curve ball at me I would have preferred not to have, but it was still a nice ceremony. My husband is Dutch so Geoffrey made me say my half in Dutch, despite my husband asking him not to. He really made me do it to, asking me to repeat certain phrases until I got them right. Unfortunately we didn't know it was coming, so we couldn't practice, and I still have no idea what I even said. It was the only less than stellar thing about the whole wedding.
Still a lovely wedding overall so not really a big problem, just a longstanding joke that I don't know what I said to my husband at the ceremony.
Rev Banfield is a funny and spontaneous individual so I am not surprised he would do something like that. However, during the planning process I think that the couple getting married should be in contact with the clergyman/woman performing their ceremony to get an idea of what to expect. Dutch is a very difficult language and should not have been sprung on the bride at the last minute. She should have been given the option before hand whether or not she wanted to speak some part of the ceremony in Dutch!
We did go back and forth on our vows with him and even customized the ceremony language. That is part of what made it so funny because my husband and I really hammered out what we wanted to say - and now I don't even know if I did!
I was definitely not happy at that exact moment, and there is a funny picture of my face when he told me to repeat after him. It took me 3 times trying to do the rrrrrrrr part of ring before he believed I simply don't know how to roll and R.
However, I tried to remember that the important part was being there with the man I love, and now we have a funny story. I wish it has been according to plan, but you know something has to come out of left field at you. With the word of caution about his potential unpredictability, he was otherwise a very nice fella.
I have to post a response to my own post now that I am married. Geoffrey Banfield BLEW ME AWAY! He was such an amazing officiant. My guests were all touched by his words as were my husband and I. I LOVED having him as my officiant and would recommend him to everyone. He was such a blessing to have as a part of my wedding. Thank you Rev. Banfield!!
Just got married July 3rd. He was great. He can offer you a religous reading or a non-religous reading. You can actualy customize your readings. His ceremony is about 25-30 min long. We were very satisfied with him and our guests had great things to say about him as well.