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    Senior Member brady bear's Avatar
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    Just need to vent...

    As some of you know I am a nurse in a very special dementia unit where my husband's former father in law resides as well. He is 95 y/o
    I am his POA since he out lived all of his children, siblings and etc. And the only one that lives in Florida and will step up to the plate to care for him.
    Well Thursday we had a meeting with all big managers telling me that he may have to leave due to his "touching"
    WTH ?? it is a dementia unit and others do the same. They have him on a one on one which means he needs a "private cna " to take care of him and that takes it away from the others... really.
    Okay I do understand their point but if the state keeps decreasing their medications then try them again... it is going to take a while to get it fixed.
    Told them I would be out of the country from 4/27 through 5/2. Told me that I need to be able to be available in case they move him
    Well do it before I leave and don't worry about the money you will lose for that time.

    Thanks for listening.... and NO I will not change my Aruba plans for this either. We need this break.

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    Start screaming now
    thats not right and you shouldn't be nice about it
    If they want you there working there they need to freaking help you out

    theres my 2 freaking cents

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    My Mom just passed from Alzheimer's at the end of January so I definitely understand the needing a break. I don't know how you all do it on a daily basis but you are truly angels on earth to those who need that kind of care. Thank you! Having said that, they must be kidding about his having to leave! That's exactly what dementia units are for! Enjoy your vacation!

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    I hope everything works out well for you!
    Jacki ~ loving Aruba from NJ

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    disgusting

    what does the social worker say?

    who will be available to make decisions when you are in aruba?

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    We did have a meeting on Thursday (actually they wanted to meet with me before on Friday afternoon before I started my 16 hour shift and I refused)
    the Nursing Home Admin., unit manager and SW.
    Guess head quarters are the ones that said we can not continue this.
    Will continue to fight for him, since there are others that do this as well and some of the women do go to the men asking for them to touch them..
    They just increased his medication so maybe the desire of "boobies" will go away.. (funny in some ways... that those things never go away)
    Sad what dementia does to the mind.. those poor folks/families are suffering. I work every weekend mainly 16 and 12 hour shifts.
    The night shift and they do not sleep at night. It is what some call sun downers... I prefer to give snacks, back rubs, and other interventions before chemicals..
    Always like working with the dementia better than "us" normal folks....at least they have an excuse. And they do know who likes them and who don't.
    Cathi

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andrea J. View Post
    disgusting

    what does the social worker say?

    who will be available to make decisions when you are in aruba?

    My son 27 y/o(only child) is the alternate person for Carlton and will look out for him as well as the two kids.
    He looks out for me and my best interest. Nice kid... or should saw young man.
    Last edited by brady bear; 04-14-2015 at 01:56 PM.

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    Just an update..
    Carlton finally earned his "wings" Wednesday afternoon.
    He had a stroke on Monday morning and went to be with his wife and all of his children Wednesday.
    Refused to leave his side till the very end. Nobody is born alone and should they go alone
    Decided that I will be giving him a grave site memorial with full military honor.
    He earned and deserved. Was in WW II.
    Be missed a lot... knowing that when I go to work he won't be there.
    But he is in a much better place and no longer suffering.
    Last edited by brady bear; 06-01-2015 at 06:48 PM.

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    Another veteran that earned his rest. Sorry for you loss and cherish your memories....

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    God rest his soul!

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