I was a supervisor for claims at Blue cross, then a stay at home mom. Got involved in a service organization with my husband and did a lot of volunteer work. That evolved into volunteering /support for local issues and political campaigns. Ran campaign offices for local/state offices. Was on congressional district committee. Then they opened a large discount store in my neighborhood and came door to door with job applications. My then college age kids asked if I was going to get a "job". On that dare, I filled out the application and they hired me. Too long a story, I ended up working for asset protection for 14 yrs. My bosses were all younger than my kids. I loved it. They had a great 401k program , medical insurance which came in handy when my husband went into business for himself. I retired 6 yrs ago and still get my employee discount.
What a fun thread.
Just getting to know everyone here - here's a little about me and my hubby. Married 10 years now. Lives in Northern VA. I work as a sales administrator for a Fortune Top 10 companies. Love my job. Every day I wake up I feel blessed to be where I am. I've been here 8 years now.
My hubby, Doug, was recently let go from a large company that builds ships. It was truly a blessing that this happened. Some large companies, such as this one, didn't care abou the customer - only about money. He found another job that is 2.7 miles from our home and is a very small company (with more pay) - and now he's focusing on the customer again!! It's very rare for these days to find a company that is concerned about that.
Thanks to some great friends who introduced us to Aruba in 2006, we have loved coming back every year (well, except for last year). Our next visit to Aruba is September (so far away :cry: )
This thread has been interesting and it's neat how different, yet the same we all are.
I was born and raised in Vancouver, BC to parents that immigrated from India (my dad via the Phillipines where he attended university for engineering). As they were quite strict, I had an arranged marriage at 19 which was "troubled" as Lisa described her first marriage, to say the least.
I went to SFU and upon graduation, went to work at BC Children's Hospital in the Child Protection Service Dept. Although, I know this department and our jobs were necessary, I found it very difficult and heart wrenching at times as this is where social workers, children's aid societies, the emergency room, etc., referred their cases of suspected or confirmed child abuse. We had to interview the children, conduct tests and exams, make assessments, write reports, provide counseling, make decisions on recommending removal of the child from it's home, testify in court and provide long term plans and follow up goals for our patients.
I am kind of a sensitive person inside and at times I had to leave the office and go for a walk (and cry) after some particularly hard cases came in. After my divorce, I came to the realization that I just wasn't mentally and emotionally healthy enough to have the boundaries needed for the job at that time. It was ironic that I spent my time counseling others, seeing their issues so clearly and yet wasn't working on any of mine.
I moved to Vancouver Island for a change and some escape. I got a job as the Manager of a Tennis Club, which was funny cause I didn't play tennis! The owner just really liked me I suppose. I did all the administration, ordering, billing, banking, scheduling, advertising, wrote a monthly newsletter, merchandised the pro shop, cooked in the kitchen, helped with private functions and whatever else was needed. I loved this job and it really gave me the time I needed to recover and find some happiness around good people.
I eventually moved back to Vancouver and went to work as an alcohol and drug counselour at a treatment facility. I didn't really like it. I quit to be a store manager for a large corporate run retail company. I moved up within a year to become an area manager with 6 stores and for a couple of years, really liked my job and found it challenging and fun.
I transferred with this company to Toronto (where it's head office is located). Around this time I started getting disillusioned with my employer, yet the benefits and pay were pretty good so I stayed.
I met and very quickly married my new husband.
I got pregnant and had a high risk pregnancy which resulted in my having to be on bed rest from March 6 to May 29 when my dd was born 13 weeks premature at 27 weeks, weighing 800g. She was in hospital for 14 weeks and is now doing amazing thank God!
Since I had to leave work early for my maternity leave, I was on sick leave first and then when my baby was born, maternity leave. I was due to return in May of this year. However, I asked to step down from my position and return to work in a different less stressful capacity or even as a part-time employee. I have absolutely no family in Toronto, except for my partner and I wanted to spend as much time with my daughter as possible. My daughter has a lot of appointments due to her prematurity and I just felt that it was important for me to be there with her as much as I can.
This is when I was let go without cause. It wasn't discussed. I wasn't given an option or a reason. I was called in for a meeting. I asked what it was about and was told "don't worry Amar, just come in, we just need to talk to you about your return." I walked into the Human Resources office, was ushered into a room, the manager of HR and my immediate boss, the VP of Eastern Operations came in, sat down and handed me a document to read and sign. If I refused to sign it, I didn't get any severance or continuation of benefits. If I signed and went quietly, I got a crappy severance package and my benefits continued for 3 months. With a baby that needs prescriptions and a self-employed spouse with no benefits, I signed.
My benefits have run out and medical bills are high and so is our stress.
I now am a SAHM and love it more than I thought I would. I am the founder and organizer of a meetup group here in Toronto for expecting women, moms and babies called Midtown Active Moms and Moms to Be. It keeps me really busy and we do all sorts of stuff and it's allowed me to make good friends for me and my daughter. I do some volunteer work for Sick Kids Hospital as they have been a life line for us.
I hope more of you post your story.
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