We found the Westin to be a great place with having 2 teens. Pool is jsut a few yards from the beach - and if you get a shade near the side, not too crowded. Plus, we found that there was a lot of evening activities in the high rise area to keep every one busy.
Thank you all for your suggestions. I am overwhelmed with how wonderful this community is and how you are all willing to help someone without a clue of where to start. We are leaning towards one of the high rise hotels because of the numerous activities that are close by. Hopefully, as many have stated, wherever we end up will be amazing!
My family have stayed at the Aruba Grand for many years and was wonderful for kids of all ages. I know they have comepleted some extensive renovations, however I hear it's still a great place for families with children. They have an all inclusive option as well. The new name is the Aruba Rio.