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    6 days until we leave! What was suppose to be a relaxing trip with just me and my two teenagers celebrating a high school graduation, has now turned into a ton of anxiety, now that my 18yr old has a friend meeting us in Aruba! the "mom" stress has ruined it for me, but i am trying to make it work. I know they want to experience the "senior trip" thing but I am so uncomfortable. We are staying at the Marriott Stellaris, I am not planning on renting a car, and I need some type of reliable source of transporation to get around. Someone i can trust, especially with the two teenagers who already printed off the list of bars to visit! Can anyone help me! I am nervous wreck and I dont want this to ruin anyones fun!! thanks!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sherilk99 View Post
    6 days until we leave! What was suppose to be a relaxing trip with just me and my two teenagers celebrating a high school graduation, has now turned into a ton of anxiety, now that my 18yr old has a friend meeting us in Aruba! the "mom" stress has ruined it for me, but i am trying to make it work. I know they want to experience the "senior trip" thing but I am so uncomfortable. We are staying at the Marriott Stellaris, I am not planning on renting a car, and I need some type of reliable source of transporation to get around. Someone i can trust, especially with the two teenagers who already printed off the list of bars to visit! Can anyone help me! I am nervous wreck and I dont want this to ruin anyones fun!! thanks!
    We brought a friend of our son's with us junior year and three friends senior year of high school. One big stress reliever was renting two cell phones (one for us and one for them) so that we could be in easy contact. We asked that they give us a quick call when they were going from one area to another. We also stayed at the Stellaris, and we didn't need transportation. because they had plenty to do in the Palm Beach area. They were happy sleeping in, getting up around 11 and lazing around the pool during the day. They also had friends staying at the Surf Club, so they also hung out around their pool too. If you're wanting to explore the island, I would look at the party buses that tour the island, which there are many links to on this site. They look like a ton of fun, and I'm sure it's something that your kids would enjoy.

    The boys never wanted to go downtown, which I will admit, would have also stressed me a little too. If that's the part that's stressing you, maybe you could persuade them to stick around Palm Beach. We've never had any issues whatsoever with taxi service in Aruba, but especially if I had girls, I'd want them to call me with the cab number as soon as they got into a cab, and also never to go alone (but I'm sure that's something you've already discussed a bazillion times). I can't honestly say what I would have said for sure, but I think I would have put my foot down, and insisted the group stay around the high rise area, or they would have had to put up with us going downtown with them. One reason is that my we know the area very well, and my son does too. We never ventured downtown much, except for restaurants and occasional shopping, so partially, I know for me, it's the fear of the unknown.
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    Thank you so much for your response. I am new to this site so your comments are so greatly appreciated! Im not going to lie, I am a wreck! Believe me, i tried putting my foot down that my daughters friend could not join us, she went ahead and is flyng in two days later!! I haven't even spoken to the parents yet!! So we are at a point, that i am going to just try to make this a good situation but that doesnt take away my stress. I have told the girls they can not venture away from the area, so downtown is out of the questions. I was thinking more of the bars and restaurants around us. Do you think they are close enough to walk. Of course, they have become very resourceful and printed off the area bars, senor frogs and others. I wish they would be that resourceful in other areas!! I was also thinking to give them a little freedom without too much anxiety booking that Kukoo Kunuku bar crawl. They both are 18yrs old. I dont know anything about this other then seeing it pull up at our hotel when we were there 3 years ago. The phone rental is a good idea. They all have phones, do you think maybe we will have issues using them. Where did you rent them? Thank you soo much again!

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    I would definitely keep them restricted to the Palm Beach area. Most of those places are within walking distance or a short cab ride away. Regarding the Kukoo bus, although I have gone on it, I don't know if I would be too keen sending 18 year olds on it alone. They make 3 stops at local bars along the way. I don't know how much they keep track of who is getting off and not getting back on the bus. I know they offered to let people get off downtown when we were on there. There is alot of drinking and belly shots/jello shot type games. If my 18 year old was going, I'd be going too!

    I'm not too versed in phones. I usually rent one on the island. There are two companies that most people use and information is available on this forum. Aruba Fast Phones and Aruba Discount Cell. It's a matter of choice. They both deliver and pick -up at your hotel. I know there is a problem using their one phones with roaming charges, but I'm not sure what that is all about as I have a phone that does nothing but phone calls!!
    I'm sure they'll be calling and texting all their friends about the fabulous time they are having and it could end up costing a small fortune if not done right.

    I have the opposite problem - I leave mine home and then worry about them - hence renting the cell phone. They are good boys and it's been fine, but I know where you are coming from! You want them to have a good time, and Aruba is very safe compared to many other islands, but it still is a foreign country and any time alcohol is involved, it's the potential for problems. I would lay down the law and if the law is broken, then consequences arise. You can all have a great time and do some things together - like the Kukoo Bus and maybe Jolly Pirates which they would enjoy. Good Luck!

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    OMG, this topic is "near and dear" to me as I just went with my youngest son on a graduation trip . It wasn't in Aruba but that is a whole other story....

    My middle son came to Aruba for his grad trip with two friends and it was fine. We also travel with our 3 kids (18, 20, 22) every Xmas so we are "experienced" with the kids going out at night.

    As suggested, getting two cell phones would be on the top of my list. We have done that for years so we can both keep in touch with each other. There are lots of places to go along the Palm Beach strip and our rule is walk there but taxi home-no exceptions!! Its a $6 cab ride! A very popular place is Moomba and that is right next to the Marriott Surf Club so walking there and back is fine. Senior Frogs is popular as is the various casinos along the "strip". I also agree that the party bus may not be the best for them.

    Of all the places you could take teenagers, Aruba is by far the safest. There are lots of places they can walk to for dinner as well. The downtown area doesn't hold the allure for the teenagers as it once did.

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    I agree with hockeymom about the cell phone rentals. I'd go to both web sites on the companies she gave, and see which one works better for you as far as minutes and cost. If you reserve before you go, they will send you your phone numbers a few days before you leave. I really like that, so that I can give them out for emergency contact. I don't use, or even turn on, my personal cell phone in Aruba. I know that some people rent sim cards or have international calling on their phones, but we don't. We've used, and have been happy with both companies, but over the last few years, we've rented through Aruba Discount Cellular.

    http://arubadiscountcell.com/

    http://www.fastphonearuba.com/

    There are many many options within walking distance of the Stellaris. One thing you'll see are security guards at the resorts, especially at night. The Stellaris has some nice bars, and Moomba's is very popular and close by (5 mins maybe). It's about a 15 min walk to the mall area. There's a good police presence in that area too. In fact. when we were there last, we noticed a drunk guy by himself a little off the main drag. He started going off yelling at the air, and with 30 secs a police cruiser pulled up and quietly walked him to their car and took him away. No sirens are anything like that, just nice and orderly. Also, it's only a $6 taxi fare from the Stellaris to the mall area, so if they do happen to go down there and stay a little late, you could plan for them to take a cab back.

    I'm glad downtown is out of the question. I'm really not familiar with the area, but my gut says no.

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    My husband and I brought our teenage daugther and a friend to Aruba twice now. The first year they wanted to go to Senior Frogs which was downtown at the time. My husband and I simply went along. We told them they didn't even have to act like they knew us, but we would be there so when they were ready to leave we KNEW they would be SAFE!!!

    This past year we had two 21 year olds and one 19 year old. We went on Jolly Pirate Cruise, went to some bars, and the Crazy Kukonoo Bus. They can have all the fun they want, but we are right there with them. Again, don't even have to act like they know us....but we are there in case they need us and for us to be COMFORTABLE and not worried to death about them.

    Sure it wasn't the most relaxing time for us....and a little hard to keep up with them, BUT we did it and actually enjoyed every minute of it! (Well except getting to bed so late), but hey thats what the beach is for....relaxing and napping through the day to get ready for another fun evening with the kids!

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    Moomba Beach is right beside the Marriotts and thats a big hang out for the kids. On the weekends, its packed!! Good luck.
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    I would suggest having a sit down discussion with your daughter, her friend and the friend's parents before leaving to discuss what is acceptable and what is not on your vacation.

    Yes, they will be eighteen but you will still feel responsible for them while they are with you. I was 19 the first time I went to Aruba but my 29yo sister was with me everywhere I went. Every. Single. Bar/Club. The best and number one rule in my family (of 6 girls) and group of friends is that you NEVER split up. You go out together, you go home together - leaving to "take a walk" with someone is never an option. That is nonnegotiable.

    Another one to think about would be setting a limit on how many drinks they can have per night - for safety reasons. If they feel like you are talking to them and treating them like the adults they are "supposed to be" they may take to heart the common sense reasoning behind limiting how much they drink. Freedom is a wonderful yet very scary thing when you have no idea what to do with it.

    Take some stress off of yourself by laying the groundwork/rules now and you should be able to limit the "surprises" you encounter on your trip. I truly hope that you all are able to relax and enjoy this trip.

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